Dating an older man jokes
Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me.
Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.
Did/does it impact sex at all, for better or for worse? This was one of the many ways the relationship was emotionally abusive — sex was always ostensibly on the table, but no matter how much I threw myself at him, I was always rejected. The fact that this man didn't want to have sex with me in spite of claiming to love me, in spite of the fact that men allegedly always want sex, in spite of the fact that they allegedly especially want sex with much younger women — all of this made the continual rejection especially painful. We have different tastes sexually — I'm more adventurous — but that has nothing to do with age.
If anything, his emotional maturity has allowed us to have those tough conversations about sex.
I think that because I was 18, he had expectations that I would be wild and crazy and open to anything.
At 18, I was just beginning to explore my sexuality and he was already comfortable in his. I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him. Because he had a reluctance to grow up, he wanted to stay young in as many ways as possible.As a 30-year-old woman, I understand their hesitations now.As an 18-year-old, I thought they were close-minded.